Brent Atwater
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Choosing Your Cancer Caregiver & Tips for Cancer Caregivers
Adapted from Brent Atwater’s books
“How to OverCome Your Health Problems: Solutions for a Better Quality Of Life!
 AND  Healing Yourself! 23 Ways to Heal Diseases & Disorders”
Just Plain Love® Books- 2011

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10/10/2007 - Caregivers & Support groups How to choose who is best for you

  Battling Cancer is an individual journey that takes all of heaven and earth to combat. Choose your caregivers well!!:

Your Caregiver walks a fine line between reality, support cheerleader, hand holder, master "hugger" and "inspiration machine", and friend, who must give that medicine, drives you to treatment, and fusses at you to keep you on track for your healing journey.

 Below are excerpts from "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations & Actions to Help Survive Your Cancer Experience" ISBN#: 978-0-9766370-0-4. Brent Atwater a Medical Intuitive and Distance healer, developed and implemented these for her clients, that used them to improve the quantity and quality of their lives.

 Your Cancer caregiver is your primary filter and monitor of your visitors, both family and friends.  They should only allow POSITIVE PEOPLE!!! and ONLY people who are emotionally nourishing for you.

YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT! 

They should encourage you to be surrounded by individuals who treat as if you are living and expect you to have a future. No "what if'ers,' no "maybe that won't work", or "oh you poor dear", or any others who say negative things.

If ANYONE ever says to you "before you were living with cancer, now you're dying with cancer."
Remove them from your life until they can be respectful and empathetic!  Not only are they unable to determine your death, they are also unkind to make a remark like this.

If they say to you, "I was just making a realistic statement so you won't be in denial and we can address your will, funeral plans, and future provisions."  FORGET THAT justification!!!!!  NO ONE who truly cares about your heart and soul, would ever say anything like that.

Do not be so needy for attention, that you allow yourself to be the "victim" of comments that are TOTALLY inappropriate!! no matter how sick you are.  As long as there is breath in your body, you have the right to be treated with respect and dignity, and as if you are going to live!!!

 
Family members as Caregivers:

If you have spent your life helping others, and enabling them, it's time to stop that energy drain.  This does NOT mean that you do not love them anymore.  It means that you care enough about yourself to take care of you FIRST, so that you can be around in the future to help them.

   Non-healing: 1. "But he's my brother and he just drinks a little too much, and he wants to come visit"..... His energy will drain you!!!  Visit with him when you are healed!
   2. At this time, YOU do NOT need to hear their problems. They need to support you! 

Friends as Caregivers:

There are several kinds of friends during this time in your life.

The talkers/ Takers: 

They call to see how you are, listen for a short period of time and then spend hours telling you about their life. They ask if they can do anything for you. When you mention that you need a ride to chemo on Thursdays, their answer is, "I'd love to take you, but I have book club."  Do not be discouraged.  This person is interested enough to call, but NOT authentic about truly helping you or they would have taken you to chemo…….. There will be more book clubs, this is your battle with a disease!  Thank them for calling, and get off the phone.

You are not THAT needy to have to talk with someone who won't really be there for you!

The Doers/ Givers:

These are the friends that pick you up, sit through, and bring you home after chemo, and probably add fresh flowers to your home. Be thankful.  They encourage you to live with every dinner invitation, movie, or "let's go to" invitation.  GO!  Do not feel like you are "putting them out", "being a bother", or whatever.  When you are well, YOU can DO for them!!!!!  They are your Earth Angels. 

Being the Caregiver for someone battling cancer, and going through cancer treatment is a job that requires everything you can muster to handle your work and all of your coping skills.
 

Advice for the Caregiver: 
1. Treat your Cancer client as if they are going to live.  DO NOT treat them as if it's just a matter of time. Always speak of their "experience" NEVER a disease. 

2. You will most likely be caught up in the overwhelming environment of caregiving, and handling every life and medical detail and decision.

Try to look at the patient and all of their circumstances as if they are in a healing situation, and in a positive manner.  Don't be a Pollyanna, but try to put a positive spin on everything that you can.

3. Although your patient has "determination to live", that determination needs to be rooted in positive.  Positive energy raises their body's physical energy frequency which fights their disease.

4. Creating a positive uplifting environment: 
     a. Dress in happy colors.
     b. Help create a environmentally pleasant and visually happy care area.  Little touches mean a lot!

     c. Only allow positive people around your patient.  EXPLAIN why the negative folks need to stay away, and help keep them away. 

     d. Be very conscious of how YOUR energy can effect the "patient."
If you view the patient in a "sick" condition, you are sending negative energy their way!
If you have a negative attitude, or irritable responses, you generate negative energy which lowers your patient's physical body frequency and DOES NOT help heal the disease. Your energy field will affect your patient.
      e. Keep your energy field clean. Your patient is like a sponge and absorbs and interacts with all the energy surrounding them and that they are exposed to. 
5. Contributing Life force energy thru Love:

      On numerous occasions, family and friends have asked how they can contribute positive energy to the "patient."  [An educational note:  The hand that you write with is your energy sending hand. The other hand is your energy input receiving hand.]  So follow the directions below according to whether you are right or left handed.

     Take your left receiving hand and place it on your heart, and take your right sending hand to hold the patient's left hand (receiving hand). Then say to the patient, "I send you the love from my Heart and it's healing life force energy to use as you so choose." 

You then become an "energizer" bunny for the patient thru your love for them.

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   About BrentAtwater
    is a “Human MRI” and an internationally renowned medical intuitive, author, pet   
   reincarnation authority, award winning artist, speaker and educator.
   www.BrentAtwater.com  
   At age 5 Duke University’s Dr. J B Rhine, documented Brent’s intuition during his
   Initial study of ESP.  After law school, Brent pioneered and founded MIDI the field
   of Medical Intuitive Diagnostic Imaging™, the process of how to look inside a body
   to identify and diagnose diseases and health issues. www.BrentEnergyWork.com 
   In 1987 Brent founded the Just Plain Love® Charitable Trust to benefit children’s
   and other worthwhile causes and later Just Plain Love® Books.  As an author she’s
   released 10 books with more to follow. www.JustPlainLoveBooks.com  
   Brent is a pioneer in healing art medicine in the USA. In 2004 she produced the
   first pilot study that scientifically documented the healing energy, diagnostic
   abilities and healing benefits of her art for healthcare, Paintings That Heal®. 
   For the past 25 years, Brent has positively transformed, expanded and uplifted
   the lives of countless individuals and their beloved animal companions.   

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 Disclaimer: Brent Atwater is not a medical doctor or associated with any branch of medicine. Brent works in Integrative Medicine (CAM). She offers her opinions based on her intuition, and her personal energy healing work, which is not a substitute for medical procedures or treatments. Always consult a physician or trained health care professional concerning any medical problem or condition before undertaking any diet, health related or lifestyle change programs. There are no guarantees with the Energy work.